Is it really over with "the one"?

Ok. Some background - i met her 8 years ago, we dated a month or two and she ended it. I never got closure and held onto her�since then. I felt back then (20) that she was the one and I ruined relationships because of the possiblity that she one day may reappear. She did, moved home last year, dated someone immediately after getting back and then myself. She was in a 7 year relationship and said the first guy wasnt a rebound, but i dont see how it wasnt. Anyway, she was always "the one" to me and when we started�dating i was amazed how much she was into it. I was nervous things would end again and played off my emotions, never telling her how i really felt, that it'd scare her away. We had an awesome 3�months together and spent every weekend night together. We went fast into the ual area, but neither of us really spoke much about our emotions, other than how we really liked each other and felt things were natural. I thought she was really happy. I waited too long and my girl broke things off two days after we got back from the beach. Prob a bad idea to go, as it was not even 4 months we were together and we went for 7 days. Anyway, the first few days were good, but at one point she got a call from work and got really stressed. Although i thought i was supportive, i tried to lighten her mood with a few jokes she didn't get, and ended up "feeling alone" regarding the situation. she's since said she over reacted about this. However, other parts of the vacation were weird as well - regarding my behavior. I acted semi distant at points and felt like she was having a bad time. she kept asking me if i was ok, and i kept saying yes, and at one point said "are you going to ask me every 5 minutes?" and that hurt her. We spoke two days before we left and seemingly smoothed things out. neither of us were good emotion communicators. Throughout the last month she said she didn't think i was having fun with her and started to lose her feelings slowly as an effect of this and of the fact that she umed since i didnt want to see certain movies with her or go do outdoors stuff with her at times, that i would be like her ex whom she had to pull teeth to do things (this wasnt the case, i would move to the moon for her). She�said the�first 5years were easy with her ex, but the last two they became strained. She changed her life for this guy and regrets her decision, but still misses much of what she left - not him, but her life - and she said she's never grieved it. She told me this after she said she lost her feelings for me. Now, i did do many things she liked to do and just because on one day i didn't want to go do her activity, another time she umed i didn't want to meet her mother - even tho SHE SAId lets just stay in - she jumped to this conclusion that i wasn't�into her fully,�without even talking to me about it. Now i spoke with her the other night and did admit she was right about some things she felt helped drop her feelings - i seemed to stop making as much effort into as she was, so she felt like i didn't want it; she felt she annoyed me at times, but never said anything and held onto this belief; I agreed that i don't know why i was acting this way. I work a very stressful job and the clients and scenarios i deal with make me space out or distant at times, because i didnt feel she would want to hear the depressing stories i deal with daily. After we were apart for a week, she allowed me to speak with her in person but said her feeling remained gone and she's only listening to her heart. I spilled everything - about my job and how it makes my outlook different from hers (i told her how im quitting and changing, not because of her, but because she was right about my outlook and i've been on the fence for a while and this pushed me over) and about how i love her. ive been in long relationships before, but never felt it the way i do towards her. I told her everything, but she couldn't reciprocate. Although she said she felt herself going towards love a few weeks ago and committing to me, she felt her heart is telling her different and she's only listeing. I accept that, but i cant accept it's over. I love this girl and my heart tells me to continue to fight for her. I cant accept that she had thoughts of committing her life to me 3 weeks ago and said she was open to it, but her feelings have since "switched like a light switch". There's no doubt in my mind - I love her and i could make her happy, but i feel i'm being chastized because of her thought that i will drag my feet to do things with her. I know i didn't do everything she wanted, but i did do alot she wanted. I should've shown her through action how much i care about her, but what can i say? i'm an idiot guy and didn't realize how her feelings were changing. Speaking with her after the break up, she said she needs time to be happy